One of the most powerful things we can do for ourselves is to examine the ideas and beliefs that we absorb from our families and society and to choose which ones we want to keep and which ones we want to let go of.
So much of what we learn as children don’t serve us as adults, yet we often carry it with us into our adult lives unless we consciously choose to let it go.
This can be anything from the belief that we’re not good enough or that we have to struggle to make ends meet, to more subtle messages about how we should look or behave.
When we take a close look at the ideas that shape our lives, we can start to question whether they’re really true or helpful, and make a choice to let go of the ones that don’t serve us.
This can be a liberating experience that opens up new possibilities for happiness and success.
No matter how much meditation you do and no matter how many positive affirmations you write and repeat, you will find it challenging to vibrate at a high level to bring in what you dream of while you hang on to some of these messages and so-called life lessons that do not serve you.
One of the biggest secrets to successful manifestation is to feel genuinely positive, and one of the best ways to feel generally positive most of the time is to accept that a lot of what you have picked up along your life journey is not true.
You have so much more power than you realize to be able to live the life you dream of.
Here are some of the life lessons and messages that I believe many of us have picked up along our journeys. Take a look and see if you relate to them.
I believe that we all need to unlearn these things to create purpose and positivity.
1. What others think of me is important
Well, no, it is not actually, and the faster you realize that, the better.
Such freedom comes with realizing that other people’s behavior towards you is a lot more revealing of themselves than it is about you.
Let the fear of judgments and comparisons go.
Believe in yourself and stop worrying about what anyone else thinks of you.
2. I need someone to complete me so that I can be whole
Wrong. We are already whole alone. If you think you need someone else to complete you, you will remain unsatisfied and unhappy.
Nobody else can fix you or permanently make you feel better.
You have to do the work yourself to feel whole, then when you have done so, coming together with another whole, complete person is the only real recipe for a happy love life.
3. The only way to success and money is to work hard
Or in other words, suffering is required in order to get anywhere in life.
While hard work is not bad, it is if you are not enjoying what you do.
There’s a saying, do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.
I love that, I believe you will be more likely to get where you want to be when you enjoy the journey and flow.
Work smarter, not harder!
4. Self love is selfish
Wrong. Arrogance and selfish behavior are selfish.
Loving yourself is natural and necessary.
Self-love is not just about having a bubble bath and getting a massage.
It’s about a core acceptance and respect for who you are as a person.
Loving yourself means treating yourself as a beautiful, spiritual being.
Being your own best friend means knowing what you deserve on a soul level and not settling for anything less.
5. I am the way I am because of my past and I can’t change it
We all have emotional baggage. Some of us have had very traumatic pasts.
While we are influenced by our experiences, we do not have to be ruled by them.
There comes the point when we can take responsibility for who we are and how we live.
We can change the way we live by creating a new reality.
6. We shouldn’t feel negative emotions
I know that I talk about positivity a lot, but that doesn’t mean there is no place for your negative feelings and emotions.
Often as kids, we are taught not to cry, to put a brave face on things or to get rid of our ‘bad’ feelings.
But our bad feelings are just as valid and need to be felt in order to pass through us.
Next time you experience a negative emotion, try seeing it as temporary, allow yourself to feel it, and let it go.
I guarantee it will pass through you much easier, and you will feel better.
7. We should always be happy
Following on from the above point, the idea that we must always be positive and smiling is unrealistic.
Life is about balance, yin and yang, day and night.
We need rain and the sun.
It’s important to maintain a positive outlook but more than that is the importance of feeling love for yourself.
When you love yourself you activate your intuition, and that is your best guide in life.
8. I can’t be what I want to be
This is a big one, guys!
The fear is that we are not clever enough or good enough, don’t live in the right city, or know the right people.
It’s all self-limiting and plain wrong.
This kind of belief just encourages a defeatist attitude.
The truth is we can all be whatever we want to be, there’s room for each of us to light up the world in our unique ways.
Which one of these truly resonated with you?
